Donate in memory

If you have lost a love one recently, donating to a charity close to their heart can be a rewarding way of remembering them. Your gift will transform lives in their name.

There is space to leave a message so please use this – we would love to know who you are remembering today and what they meant to you.

Funeral collection

Talk to your funeral directors. They are there to take the stress away and ensure everything runs smoothly without any worry to you.  They will be happy to organise the collection for you, collecting money in lieu of flowers and forwarding it on to charities. We can provide collection boxes if needed, and leaflets for the service to give loved ones more information about your chosen charity. Cheques can be made payable to “Back Up”.

You may want to add a line to the order of service telling people why you have chosen this charity, or have the celebrant draw attention to the collection at the end of the service.

Online tribute and donation pages

You can set up an online tribute page where people can share photos and memories, and donate in memory of your loved one. and Just Giving offer these services. Friends and family can visit the tribute page, leave messages, share memories, and donate.

Remembering Mike

Sadly, Kay lost her husband Mike and made the generous decision to ask those close to them to donate to Back Up in lieu of flowers, raising an incredible £1000.

“After Mike’s death, I decided to donate to Back Up because they were there for me at a time when I really needed help.

”Helping me also helped Mike and I know he really appreciated this. I know he would be overwhelmed with the response and very happy that the money will be put to good use”.

She first got involved with Back Up in 2009, after Mike was left permanently paralysed. She received support from a family mentor.

“When I first spoke with Back Up I was quite distressed. Within two weeks, they had matched me up with a mentor.  They found me such a good match. She was instantly the right person for me.

”My mentor made my expectations more realistic and helped me to take a step back from everything. I was less stressed and had more energy. Seeing my confidence improve made Mike feel that he was alright.”

Mike and Kay

Mike & Kay

£1000 will allow us to train two new volunteer family mentors to support more people like Kay.

Donating in memory of someone special can be a positive way to celebrate their life and support our vital services. It will allow us to train even more mentors who can be a lifeline for people like Kay, supporting them through their darkest hours when they need us most. Friends and family can give an extra special gift with the knowledge that it will make a huge difference to the lives of everyone affected by spinal cord injury.


If you would like more information on leaving a gift in memory to Back Up, or assistance in setting up a tribute page, please contact our Fundraising Manager, Janet, by email or call her on 020 8875 1805.