Frequently asked questions about our mentoring service

We understand that there are many questions when you’re looking for support, so we’ve written some  common FAQs about our mentoring service for individuals with spinal cord injury and family members. We cover questions for both potential mentees and mentors.

If you have further questions please contact us on 020 8875 1805.

What is mentoring?

  • It is a telephone-based support service where we match mentees with a suitable mentor with relevant experience to enable them to feel supported, connected and to achieve their goals within ten phone calls or less.

Questions for mentees

I’d like to have mentoring, what do I do?

  • Please fill in the relevant mentoring referral form and one of the team will be in touch with you within the next two weeks, except at some times when the waiting list will be three weeks.

How many calls are allowed?

  • We recommend up to 10 calls up to an hour each. Occasionally it is possible to have one or two more if there is a specific reason but it is decided on a case-by-case basis.

How will you choose a mentor for me?

  • We will have a phone conversation with you during which we’ll ask you questions about you or your relative’s spinal cord injury, how it affects you/them in terms of mobility, bladder, bowels, pain and we will make a suitable match based on this as well as personal interests. We will ask you for at least one goal you’d like to achieve through mentoring and your mentor will be chosen to help you reach this.

I don’t feel like I need ten full calls, can I still speak to a mentor?

  • Absolutely, sometimes people get what they need and reach their goal in one or two calls.

Can we have a video call?

  • Yes, please let the team know and we can set up a video call. You can use video calls provided it can be done confidently. (Facetime cannot be used at present but Zoom or Skype are fine).

I’ve been injured for many years – can I still have mentoring?

  • Absolutely, mentoring is available at any stage, provided you can identify a goal that you’d like to achieve.

I can only speak at weekends or in evenings, is this okay?

  • Yes, mentors can often be flexible to work around your availability. Please let us know during the assessment what your availability is like.

I’ve got mental health issues, can I still have mentoring?

  • Yes, It’s important to note that mentoring is not a mental health service nor can it replace counselling or psychological support. However if you do have a mental health condition, mentoring can run alongside any other support.

I’ve had mentoring before, would it be okay to have it again?

  • Yes. Usually, one mentoring relationship is sufficient for mentees to reach their goals, but it is possible for mentees to have another relationship, again, if they can identify some new goals to be achieved through mentoring.

Is everything I say kept private between my mentor and I?

  • Mentors will report back a general summary of your conversations to the mentoring team. Conversations are confidential within Back Up (you, your mentor and staff at Back Up), except where there is a safeguarding concern about serious harm to you or someone else. In this case we may need to involve other services, such as your GP.

Is everybody accepted to receive mentoring?

  • The mentoring team will undertake a rigorous assessment process where they will decide if we have a suitable volunteer mentor who would be able to support you. Occasionally, the team will make a decision that mentoring is not the most appropriate support. We will do our upmost to signpost you to an appropriate service whether it be at Back Up or externally.

Can my mentor and I meet in person?

  • Mentoring primarily takes place over the phone so that we can ensure we can make the most suitable match. It may be possible to meet in person during the relationship in a public place provided both parties agree and we are made aware.

Can I have my mentor’s telephone number or befriend them on social media?

  • No. We ask all mentors not to give out their personal contact details to mentees or to accept requests during the mentoring relationship. If you would like to get in contact with your mentor, please call the mentoring team in the office on 020 8875 1805. They will get in touch with your mentor and pass on any message or schedule a call for you both.

What happens at the end of the sessions with my mentor?

  • At the end of a mentoring relationship one of the team will be in touch with you to take your impact measures. There may be mixed feelings when you’ve completed all your sessions with your mentor. You and your mentor might feel sad that the relationship is ending, which is quite normal. It may be that there are still problems or difficulties that you’re facing. We hope the sessions that you have with your mentor will allow you to feel more confident about dealing with those situations when the mentor is not there. We hope that the end of mentoring will not be the end of your relationship with Back Up. There are other opportunities to get involved which can offer you further support to help you meet your aspirations and reach your goals such as courses or volunteering.

How do my mentor and I arrange calls?

  • We suggest arranging a call at the end of your last phone call, or keeping to the same time every week/fortnight, but if you need to reschedule, please contact the mentoring team.

Mentors

What do I need to become a mentor?

  • Excellent listening skills, a desire to support others and lots of experience of living with spinal cord injury or having a family member with a spinal cord injury are key attributes of our mentors. We look for mentors who can be role models for people affected by spinal cord injury.

I’d like to become a mentor but I’ve only been injured for a year.

  • As lived experience is crucial, we usually suggest people apply to become a mentor after two years, but this can be flexible so please fill out an application form.

How much time do I need to be a mentor?

  • We require mentors to attend a training weekend and then if you are successful, you can mentor as much as you want, as required. Mentoring relationships can be up to 10 calls of up to an hour each, with some time to record notes of the call and to send them to the office.

I haven’t been asked to mentor in a while – why is this?

  • We make mentoring matches based on the need of mentees who are referred to us, whether that be age, level of injury, mobility. Don’t take it personally, the likelihood is that we haven’t had a referral that would be a suitable match for you.

How often do you train mentors?

  • Currently we run two family mentor trainings and two spinal cord injury mentor trainings per financial year.

Can mentors have more than one mentee at a time?

  • This can happen if the mentor is willing and able to take on more than one mentee at a time. If there is the demand.

Contact

If you have any questions about our mentoring service, please email our Interim Family & Mentoring Manager, Sophie, or give her a call on 020 8875 1805.

You can refer yourself or someone else to spinal cord injury mentoring or family mentoring. If you need a paper form, please do get in touch with us.

You can apply to become a mentor through this form, but please note that there are separate application forms for mentors with a spinal cord injury and family mentors so make sure that you complete the correct form.